Official 5/8 Singles Club v. Tech accidentally discovers one of the laws of shemale attraction

Whatever dude, right now I'd love to have that effect on a girl after 2 dates. I'm working on it.

no

I'd consider just getting a date to begin with a success

I think Bacong got high for the first time tonight.

I am on my 12th beer so no worries

what is faygo

nah love is boring and fading.

get this fat guy co-dependence shit out of here. You're never going to be happy if you can't be proud of yourself for your own personal accomplishments and goals.

i kissed a virgin today and then i tipped her over just now
don`t ask me how

Lol nigga that's a cow.

Dude, keep up, I'm going full beard these days. Also, the guy she's dating has a beard as well lol, and hilariously is way more beta than me. I mean she and I shoot the shit all the time, call each other names, take the piss, I call her an assface when she's rude, all that, and he just does whatever the hell she wants, he seems completely passive in the relationship, and I have no fucking clue what she sees in him, other than the idea that she wants someone who will basically do her bidding after being in some really nasty relationships in the past. It's obviously not healthy, but calling her out on that might be overstepping my bounds just slightly.

Anyway, I get what you guys are saying, I really do. It's not like I haven't been looking for other girls, I just don't seem to meet any that I'm actually attracted to (plus I am pretty beta, in all honesty). It's also near impossible to cut her out of my life, because we have the same friends, and she would totally call me on it, and I'd end up worse off than before. I mean sure, it's beta as fuck, but I'd still rather have her as a friend than not have her in my life at all. I've thought for a while that the only real way to get over her without cutting her out of my life completely would be to meet other girls, but I have basically zero luck in that department. This is kind of what I was attributing to 'asbergers' earlier in the thread, because I seem to have such difficulty connecting to girls on a romantic level, despite my best intentions. But maybe it's just because I'm beta and I suck.

Just because you are quiet and always inside your own head, doesn't mean you have Aspergers. Why does every inexperienced 5/8er put their troubles down to various neuroses? You just have to put yourself out there, and you have to do it often until you learn the ropes. This is real life, not a Michael Cera movie.

Yeah dude, we had that conversation earlier in the thread, but that's cool.

EDIT: @ Genomer

You know what's even funnier? She actually suggested I move in with her boyfriend when my lease is up in September and my current housemate moves in with his fiancee. I think I'd rather kill myself than subject myself to that.

I'm sorry, I don't keep tally of the amount of times someone has had to give you a verbal bitchslap.

That said, at least be happy that people are around to do that for you.

It's fine, I'm aware how terrible I am at giving myself a bitchslap. I know what's wrong with me, but I can't force the change very easily. It does help that there are people around to tell me I'm a fucking idiot, because otherwise I might never get the message (completely serious).

Dev, stick with her while you make some new friends, then drop her like the dead weight that she is. She's not your best friend, and I hope her words embittered you to the point where you finally feel motivated to do something about yourself and your life.

I've spent years pining after girls I couldn't have and the only thing that stopped it from being a shitty decision on my part was that I eventually learned from it.

stop thinking of girls as sexual objects only and maybe your interactions with them will be less awkward. also, not having any platonic relations with women significantly decreases your chance of getting laid imo. meeting girls through female friends >>>>> intentionally placing yr hand close to a girl in class hoping that she'll touch it by accident

I DON'T WANT FUCKING FAYGO! YOU'RE A FAYGO! I WANT MY GODDAMN MOUNTAIN DEW!

lol how about there's shit wrong with her and you did nothign wrong

In fairness we have a lot of the same personality problems, but she has all the inherent advantages of being a cute girl as opposed to a clumsy tall guy. I was mostly talking in generalities though, besides relationships, I also have a lot of trouble pushing myself to do things I want in other parts of life, mostly because of fear or whatever, but that's shit I have to work through myself.

Stop making excuses about how the universe did you wrong by making you clumsy or giving you "personality problems". You seriously need to find something that makes you feel good about yourself, I mean even just a new hobby or something.

Your sentence "I also have a lot of trouble pushing myself to do things" ... STOP thinking like that! Sheesh. It's like the Asperger's discussion we all had with you recently. It's pretty easy to sit back and over-classify yourself to explain away all of the things you're unhappy with. ACTION is the only thing that's going to change that. I swear, I don't know if it's the internet or what, but everyone needs labels and diagnoses and all that shit to have an easy out from uncomfortable situations. Being uncomfortable or making an ass of yourself or getting hurt is part of life, you have to learn and develop and change instead of just hanging back until the perfect situation presents itself, because IT WON'T.

Hold on a second... where did I say that I think of them as sexual objects or stop talking to them?

diagnosis: bad baby sitter

Someone who pretentiously uses the Latin names just to appear smart?

I agree with prawn though, women generally seem to find my intelligence hot. But that's probably because I manage to sound smart without sounding like a smartass.

Sing this to her:

Here is my singles club story: went for a drink with a girl I've been sort-of-seeing, took her home, we had lots of sex, afterwards she told me she'd bet her friend that she wouldn't sleep with me, to show she had some self-restraint. Lol.

I have made steps, just so you know. I joined a band about 18 months ago, and we just put out our first single, which I recorded and produced, and I've covered for instruments in another couple of bands since then, I've been writing my own stuff and putting it on the net, and it's gotten a lot of positive response. Unfortunately I still feel like the biggest shit in the pan, I'm taking antidepressants, and I'm seeing a therapist. They might sound like excuses, but the fact is that my brain is pretty fucked up, and it's taking more than a long time to sort it out.

have you ever thought about seeing an escort just to relieve some pent up frustration? before you shoot me down, i was once in a similar situation and someone recommended this to me. initially i was totally against the idea, but in the end i wound up giving it a go and he was actually very gentle

Dev never said, that this would be easy, so go on get friend zoned.

I know it's not easy, that's why I said in my previous post that I recognize the difference between sitting back and saying this and actually doing it. I guess I just feel someone needs to be saying these things, promoting action-oriented encouragement. Dev's recent post saying "my brain is pretty fucked up" ... there is nothing productive that comes from that kind of self-defeating talk.

Trust me, I understand the mind very well. But saying "it's not that easy" doesn't help anyone. I'm glad Dev is getting therapy, especially since I think pretty much everyone should have some sort of counseling experience in their lives. I just think that you can either choose to let things like "I'm fucked up" rule your decision-making, or you can choose to work on it and push for change in your life.

An analogy that comes to mind is the fact that I don't have a full-time job. I'm choosing to hold out for the job I want, and working part-time while I look. I could sit back and say "it's not that easy to just get a job, I have certain experiences and blah blah blah". Instead of that, I apply to every single job I find online within my field, even if they're not all ideal. The practice of applying, interviewing, and constantly re-evaluating how I present my skills and experience is EXTREMELY important. If I don't get my dream job, I can either whine about how the system is unfair and I have certain inherent disadvantages, or I can change up my resume, re-write my cover letter, stop idealizing the "perfect fit" job, and keep applying to whatever I'd be willing to do. That's the analogy for Dev and whoever else ... he can't control the fact that this girl doesn't want him, so he can ruminate on how life isn't fair, or he can work on his confidence and self-esteem and find a NEW girl (or several new girls). There's even the outside chance that she will eventually be attracted to his "new self", although by then she might not be an ideal companion for him anymore.

Honestly dude, when you first met this girl, did you instantly feel like she was such hot shit? Because I have a feeling that it took time, and as you got to know each other better, you came to know her personality and love it. Maybe I'm getting the wrong impression from your posts, but it seems like you write off these other girls you are meeting without really giving them much time to make any sort of impression.

got super drunk and had a gentle cuddle sesh with a girl who was also super drunk. had boner and pressed against her bum all night. Do you guys think she could be the one?

Stopped reading here and laughed quite heartily

I think it's more likely that it's me giving the bad impression on first meeting. I've built myself into this mindset of being monstrously bad at interpersonal relations, although I'm not really terrible at it generally, I still tend to overthink things and fail miserably when it counts.

Why were you not such a pussy whenever we met?
And we met quite a lot.

not sure if you can identify with this, dev, but for the longest time i used to think that everyone disliked me by default and that i had to "win them over" by being nice, or by being funny, whatever. and i would crack jokes just to get on people's good side, not because i was necessarily having a good time. it's an extremely taxing way to live.

Yeah this was definitely me. Even though I know now that obviously not everyone automatically dislikes me, it's still hard to get out of that mindset. I've kinda taken up not actively trying to make an impression on someone but rather see what kind of impression they leave on me to see if they're worth hanging around, but then we just wind up having very little interaction, and I feel like I have to fill in (this doesn't apply to just women)

a good mental exercise to try during awkward silences: just assume the other person is nervous about the silence and thinking of interesting things to say to you. thoroughly tested, works wonders. enjoy the silence.

it's pretty retarded but in general when you start with a "mental exercise" like that it slowly becomes true in your mind. i'm not such an exceptional guy but i tend to assume that a good majority of men think i'm a cool dude (no homo), and a good majority of women are attracted to me when they interact with me -- and i really mean that, i'm not pretending.

in b4 5/8 says they hate me and crush my self esteem

whoa whoa whoa i think it's fair to say people don't generally dislike cheddar, but they do dislike yousie by default

i've seen your pics, and i actually think you're a pretty good-looking guy

but i fucking hate you

don't be so harsh on poor pimp b